How to Be a Better Person

Changing the world begins first with changing ourselves. Self improvement involves means taking an honest look at ourselves to identify our shortcomings and improve them. These steps will begin your journey into being a better person.

Step1

Look for the best qualities of others and yourself. Take advantage of situations where you can exercise your best qualities and highlight those of others. Record your thoughts daily and review them to visualize what affects us and how. Schedule a window for quiet time each day.

Step2

Give others the same dignity that you would expect to receive. Recognize that status or income levels do not make the man nor determine his value. Take time to actually hear what others have to say instead of interjecting your own personal thoughts or simply not paying attention.

Step3

Become involved in what others have to say by asking sincere questions and waiting for an answer. This will enhance your relationships, allowing you to make positive contributions to a healthy friendship.

Step4

Provide assistance to others when needed, going out of your way if necessary. Acts of kindness are often met with reciprocal acts of kindness. You are further demonstrating how to be a better person and reaping the rewards from your efforts while making others feel special.

Step5

Empathize with others' plights or circumstances. Listening to your heart and following it instead of being judgmental contributes to your being a better person. Being honest in your dealings with others also promotes positive relationships. Problems arise when the truth is not spoken or twisted to suit one's motives. Choose your words carefully and precisely. Express yourself kindly.

Step6

Develop a set of standards and live by them. Don't allow others' viewpoints to alter your code of ethics. Maintaining your personal values during difficult times will help you to be a better person.

Love

If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, 
Be gentle with yourself.
There is nothing wrong with you.
Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart.

If you find someone else in love with you and you don't love him/her,
Feel honored that love came and called at your door, 
But gently refuse the gift you cannot return.
Do not take advantage. Do not cause pain.
How you deal with love is how you deal with you, 
And all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, 
Even if our lives and ways are different.

If you fall in love with someone, 
He/she falls in love with you and then love chooses to leave, 
Do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame, let it go.
There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time.
Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you.
All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery 
When it comes into your life.

Feel the way it fills you to overflowing,
Then reach out and give it away.
Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you.
Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit.
Give it to the world around you in any way you can.
There is where many lovers go wrong.
Having been so long without love, 
They understand love only as a need.
They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, 
And they begin to look at love as something that flows to them 
Rather than from them.

The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, 
But as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as need.
They cease to be someone who generates love 
And instead become someone who seeks love.

They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, 
And that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.

Remember this, and keep it to your heart.
Love has its own time, its own seasons, 
And its own reason for coming and going.
You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into saying.
You can only embrace it when it arrives 
And give it away when it comes to you.
But if it chooses to leave from your heart 
Or from the heart of your lover,
There is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do.

Love always has been and always will be a mystery.
Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.

IF YOU KEEP YOUR HEART OPEN, IT WILL COME AGAIN.